It can be frustrating to see someone you care about be hurt and abused in a relationship. Please remember the following when attempting to help:

• Be there; just listen
• Don’t pressure to break up; this may drive them away from you
• Tell them it is not their fault
• Encourage them to get help; offer to go with them to see a counselor
• Offer to share written information on relationship abuse with them
• Don’t blame them by saying: “You’re stupid to stay with them” or “Why do you let them treat you like this?”
• BE SUPPORTIVE no matter what they decide to do
• Call the police if you witness physical violence

On average, victims will try to leave the relationship 7 times before they are successful. Each time they try; do your best to make it a positive, empowering experience.

You may also have friends that are behaving abusively toward their partners. Here are some things to remember when attempting to help.

• Tell them their behavior is NOT COOL; talk to them about the consequences of their decisions
• Don’t laugh or make light of abusive behavior
• Encourage them to get help; offer to go with them to see a counselor
• Be supportive of their partner; tell them no one deserves to be abused
• Get written information to share with them about abusive behavior
• Be a role model for healthy relationships by treating your partner and friends with respect