Supporting A Family Member or Friend Experiencing Abuse
Watching someone you care about experience harm or abuse in a relationship can be deeply upsetting. Your support can make a real difference.
On average, victims attempt to leave an abusive relationship seven times before they succeed. Each time they try, support them with compassion and encouragement to make it a positive and empowering experience.
Some friends may be treating their partners in harmful ways. Keep these points in mind if you want to offer support or guidance.
Let them know their behavior is unacceptable and have a conversation about the consequences of their actions.
Never laugh at or minimize abusive behavior — it’s serious and should be treated as such.
Be supportive of their partner; tell them no one deserves to be abused.
Encourage them to seek help and offer to go with them to talk to a counselor or other trusted professional.
Be a role model for healthy relationships by treating your partner and friends with respect
Access educational materials and confidential support services to help them better understand abusive behavior and how to seek help safely.
If you’re trying to support them, please keep the following points in mind:
- Be there and just listen. Let them share without judgment.
Avoid pressuring them to leave the relationship. Pushing too hard may push them away.
Reassure them it is not their fault. Abuse is never justified.
Encourage professional help. Offer to accompany them to a counselor or support service.
Provide resources. Share written information about healthy and abusive relationships.
Never blame them. Avoid saying things like, “You’re stupid to stay” or “Why do you let them treat you this way?”
Support their choices. Respect whatever decision they make while remaining present.
Call the police if you witness physical violence. Safety comes first.
Your support can make a real difference in their safety and healing.
For more information, please contact our office
(847) 731-7165
info@asafeplaceforhelp.org